The caterpillar has no idea how to become a butterfly, nor does he know that that is his fate, he just knows he’s not happy where he is. It’s easy to get stuck second guessing yourself, and “better the devil you know” as the saying goes, sets you up for much procrastination and stagnation.
If all you needed was information to make a change in your life, you would have done it already, there’s no shortage of it out there, heck that’s why Google was created. The real problem is transformation. Why don’t you transform? You know you don’t like where you are, and the information is out there to help you change that, so whats the real problem?
Your thoughts lead to feelings, feelings drive you to action, so if you’re thought processes are off you will NEVER have what you really want because you won’t act or you’ll begin to act and then think yourself out of it. This is the part most people miss and that’s why they never achieve their goals, or they achieve them only to lose it and end up right back where they started.
The answer then is to take one step forward, do something different, agitate, expand and see what happens. You don’t need to know where you’re going, just do something different. You may have heard this before but…
What small change can you make as an experiment? Just see what happens. Exploration is really the way forward, there is no such thing as failure, there’s only lessons, and if you never try anything new but you expect things to change then truely…you might just be a little crazy.
If you’d like my help to figure out where to start, click through below and make an appointment for a free discovery call. On this call we figure out your biggest challenge and then decide what to do about it. I really hope you’ll take a chance, you have literally nothing to lose.
Why Can’t I Lose Weight?
Have you ever asked, why can’t I lose weight and keep it off for good?
When you see weight as the enemy, it keeps hanging around. Whether you want to lose 10 lbs or 110 lbs, the core of the issue is the same: your body is sending you a message much deeper than, “Hey fatty, get to the gym!”
Most diseases and chronic ailments we experience are messages to us about how we have lived our life up until
this point. We can try to cover them up, treating just thesymptom, or we can ask ourselves a new question:
What is this here to teach me about myself?
Weight is no different – it’s a condition your body has presented to you so that you can grow. The body is always communicating with us, each and every day it is tellingus what it needs. If only we were listening. A New Perspective on Weight Gain. Consider that weight gain is actually a message yourbody is sending you. And if you try to control it by depriving yourself, using willpower or restricting yourself, you are only tightening the situation. What is needed is expansion – a new look, an open perspective, a new door to open for learning and growth.
If your weight is a message to you, then what is the message?
It’s different for every person. Some examples of messages that come in the form of extra pounds are:
• I need to slow down
• I need to love myself
• I need more balance
• I need nourishment
• I need to change my old belief system that isn’t serving me any more
• I need to honor myself
• I want to feel good
• I want to have more energy
• I want to be happy
“Can’t I just lose the weight first before I have to look at all of these other sticky issues?”, you’re wondering.
Most people go about it this way. And they often lose weight, but most times it returns. In fact, most diets fail. Ninety-five percent
of people on a diet gain back all the weight they lost within 1-2 years, or sometimes they gain back even more. The reason is, they didn’t learn the lesson of why the extra weight was there to begin with. If you are looking for long term health and balance, you will
have to take a deeper look. Anyone can figure out how to burn calories with a google search or a pass by the diet book section in Amazon. Losing weight is not just about calories in, calories out. Shedding extra pounds is not just about counting points and calculating fat grams, if it were, we’d all be supermodels. Keep in mind that weight gain in not strictly a physical event, it’s also an opportunity for personal growth and empowerment. The real secret is the message your body wants you to know so you can begin to live your very best life. And uncovering that secret is an amazing journey that will create not only long term weight loss, but lasting balance and a renewed sense of self.
©International Association of Wellness Professionals, 2017
Perhaps you’re struggling with a challenge that you just can’t seem to solve, like moving forward towards a new career or improving your relationship with your spouse or partner or you solve it, but it just keeps coming back, like weightloss or sleep problems.
Although it is ideal and most effective, your work with a Health Coach does not need to be in tandem with your medical provider. You may choose to see me simply because you’re seeking support with your efforts to improve your health. As we work together, I may recommend a joint collaboration with your primary medical provider (especially when serious health conditions must be considered). However, don’t let the fact that you may not be working with a doctor hinder you from beginning your efforts.
A Health Coach works:
- To help you learn new tools and practices for overall improved health
- To bridge the gap between medical recommendations from your doctor and your abilities and desires to successfully acquire a healthy lifestyle
- As a means of direction toward your true/complete health – offering education, guidance and accountability on a plan for nutrition, detoxification for overall health, weight loss, and optimal aging
- To assist you in recognizing lapses in your program, which are normal and should be taken in stride, but may lead to relapse, overwhelm and eventual giving up.Together we plan for those times and hang the proverbial “safety net” to catch you and bounce you back on your way to success.
Wellness is achieved by improving on a set of 5 factors related to optimal health:
- EMOTIONAL: The ability to express emotions with comfort and in a healthy manner
- INTELLECTUAL: The ability to learn and use intellectual capabilities to make healthy decisions
- SOCIAL: The ability to make satisfying interpersonal relationships
- ENVIRONMENTAL: The ability to appreciate the external environment and improve environmental conditions
- PHYSICAL: The ability to achieve a healthy lifestyle in the service of one’s own health
- SPIRITUAL: The ability to seek meaning and purpose in one’s daily life
REMEMBER: We are talking about a lifelong journey and permanent change
When it comes to your health and eating, it’s easy to forget that you are a unique being. In your quest for the
perfect, flawless body, you assume that the latest fad diet advertised on the newsstand must be the way to a
better looking you. Twisted notions come to mind, such as, “If it worked for my friend, Jane, then it will work
for me!” and “If my coworker can lose 10 pounds fast by eating nothing but cottage cheese, so can I!” But
when the peanut butter and celery diet fails, you are left wondering what went wrong. So you jump on the
next diet roller coaster that barrels into the public eye, which will only slow down and confuse your
metabolism, especially during menopause. Stop! Don’t blame yourself. There is an answer.
The truth is: There is no one right diet that will work for everyone. Despite all of the dietary information
available today – Vegan Is Victorious, Macrobiotic Is Marvelous, Low Carb Conquers, Raw Food Rules – you
remain utterly confused. You are left with only one tool. That tool is your body’s own wisdom. Yes, the
answer to what and how to eat lies within you, not on the cover of your favorite magazine.
It’s fascinating to think of everything you learn in your life. You learn to wake up on time and arrive at school
before the bell rings. You learn to either get good grades or fail. You learn to operate bikes, automobiles,
computers and more. But when it comes to your own health, you may never take the time to learn how to
operate your own system. It’s your body’s wisdom that will tell you when you are hungry, what you should
eat, and for how long you should sleep. You just need to learn to listen to what your body is saying to you.
You may be wondering, “Why can’t I hear any of this then?” Well, your body speaks to you every day. It
whispers to you quietly, though, and if you’re not listening, you may miss it. Somewhere deep inside, as you
are craving that hot fudge sundae, your body is talking to you. Perhaps it’s really saying that you are scared,
lonely, tired, depressed, happy, angry or sad, and that what it really needs is some physical touch or a
listening ear. But the hot fudge sundae is easy; it will work to cover up your feelings…until the next craving.
So how can you begin to listen to your body’s inner wisdom in order to achieve your perfect health? Do you
want to reach your ideal weight, feel comfortable in your own skin, balance your hormones or increase your
energy? There are four steps to getting in touch with the inner wisdom of your body that will send you on the
path to a healthier you.
4 Steps to Getting In Touch With Your Body
1. Slow down – Consider that the world is not as face-paced as you think it is. By changing your belief
about the world, your view of it will change. Begin to picture your world as slower and calmer. When you
begin to experience stillness throughout your day, your body will thank you. Take a few moments to
meditate during your daily routine. Most people avoid stopping to reflect because they are fearful of what
they might discover within themselves. When you step out of your daily routine and take even just a
moment for peace, you quiet the endless chatter in your head and allow your body’s wisdom to speak up.
Pick two times during the day to stop what you are doing, breathe, reflect, and give thanks for your
incredible body that breathes, sleeps, and operates each day.
2. Chew your food – If such a simple step sounds insignificant, think again! If you come to the table in a
rush, your body will remain in the stressful state of the fight or flight response. Imagine your body as it
tries to digest food, thinking that it is going to fight a war. It’s impossible! Your body will choose to store
the food for later. (Huh – so that’s how all of those extra pounds got packed on!) Chewing your food
allows your digestive juices to do their job by helping you properly assimilate food and absorb nutrients.
And also, chewing your food and experiencing the taste, texture and smell of each bite will lead to a
more enjoyable experience. You can be eating the best food money can buy, but if you are disconnected
from the process of experiencing your food, you will never be truly satisfied. When you relate with your
food in this way, you will be less likely to go looking for something else in the pantry an hour later.
3. Eat and listen – Now, this is not your everyday food journal. Keep a log of what you eat every day and
how you feel two hours after eating it. Are you still hungry? Are you too full? Are you satisfied? Is your
stomach settled? What are you craving? By listing not only what you are eating but also how it makes
you feel, you will begin making a connection to what you eat and how it affects your digestion, your
energy levels and your mood. You are learning to turn on your inner radar so that you can listen to what
your body is telling you. Most importantly, you will create the mind-body connection that is often missing
in today’s dining experience.
4. Honor your body – Start by making your health and your body a priority. Try a new exercise routine,
go for a brisk walk, or participate in a yoga class. When you take time for your health and wellbeing, you
send positive messages to your body, such as, “I honor you and my health. I am in touch with you, so
that you can be in touch with me.” Begin to talk to your body as the home of your soul. Eliminate the
negative messages that you subconsciously send to your physical body. Try this exercise: Begin by
standing in front of the mirror naked. (Yes, in the buff, that’s right.) Stand there for five minutes and
notice what you love about your body now, not what you used to love about it. Then state it out loud.
Repeat this several times a week until you feel connected to both your physical and emotional self.
Concentrate on your inner beauty and your outer beauty will start to follow suit.
When you slow down, chew your food, eat and listen, and honor your body, you will reconnect with that
inner voice that tells you each day all you need to know about what to eat, when to eat and how much to
eat. There is no one, single miracle diet that will tell you what your own body needs in order to be happy,
fulfilled and healthy. You are your own guide for healthy eating and living.
©International Association of Wellness Professionals, 2017